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Apr 05 2012

Her Children Arise and Call Her Blessed

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The program for Mom’s party was full of praise, prayers, songs, stories, and laughs. Rob had created a slide show of old photos and messages from friends. He had the tables compete against each other trying to answer twelve questions from Mom’s life. He interspersed comments and quotes. He kept the audience engaged and was truly a master of ceremonies.

My Aunt Robin read an endearing poem. Ann, a friend of Moms for 37 years, spoke sincerely of the blessing Mom is to her. Ruth, a young woman from Mom’s church shared about the effect of Mom’s mentoring in the lives of the young women in the church.

My nieces and nephews played pieces on the piano and cello. My sister in law, Michelle sang a lovely song she wrote for Mom. My brother Mike prayed scripture promises for Mom. Marie led the Happy Birthday singing. After the Manry Family dirge played on the screen, I read a story I wrote about Mom.

As Howie walked to the microphone, he began singing the doxology. Everyone joined in. Mom told me later she had wanted to stand up to sing. Howie spoke of the memory the song brings to him of our small church in Zim. Our entire family came to faith in Jesus Christ in that little church. We are ever grateful that the Lord drew Mom to Himself and through her, all of us to faith in Christ.

Meloch Family

Meloch Family

Apr 04 2012

Send in the Clowns

Posted by Mugs @ 2:30 pm in Family Print This Post Print This Post

People came from far and wide for Mom’s party, people I hadn’t seen for years and years. Many of Mom’s friends from up north on the Iron Range drove down. Neighbors and friends from Zimmerman (Where Mom and Dad lived prior to a year ago) arrived. Friends and workers from the retirement home came. A friend of Moms who served with her in the Air Force drove in from Iowa. Friends of my brothers, sister, and I arrived. Mom’s sisters flew in from Florida and New York. A friend from Chicago drove up and back in one day. Upon hearing this, my brother Rob declared, “He wins the prize. That’s a long way to go for a plate of meatballs.”

Marie, Howie, Cami, and I helped with the food prep. Howie was the master chef and Marie worked right along beside him. They had full confidence in Cami. She got to make the cheese ball. The only thing they allowed me to do was haul items and rinse and cut the grapes. Both Howie and Marie have worked with me during food prep before and neither appreciates my thoroughness (in their term: slowness).

The menu was kept simple: meatballs, bacon wrapped dates with blue cheese, spinach artichoke dip, cheese ball, fruit, vegetables, cake, punch, coffee and lemon bars. (No party in Minnesota happens without bars.) Marie’s friend arranged the presentation of the food and helped serve. Mom fretted about all the work everyone was doing.

“Everyone is doing so much work and I’m not doing anything,” she said.

“Mom, every day for 70 years, you have been doing all the work. Lets change it up for one day. We’ll do all the work for once, and you will do nothing,” I said.

The food was great and only a few things approached the edge of the plan. My brother in law, Rich made the sauce for the meatballs in a perfectly sized pan. As the sauce simmered, the pot lid lifted up and down in rhythm. Marie borrowed a crock pot from her neighbor to warm the meatballs over night. Unfortunately, the low switch on the crock pot was not quite low enough. When Howie woke up the next morning, he discovered some burnt meatballs on the bottom.

“This is a party for Mom,” I declared. “We should follow the advice she gives most often, “Scrape off the burnt part.”

Howie and Marie were unwilling to follow this advice. Rich’s mom, Audrey (a true Ranger) offered to eat the burnt ones for us.

When we arrived at the party venue, Howie had a few more things to cook and I filled vases with daffodils and pussy willows. Rich, Mike, and the boys moved tables and chairs. Marie orchestrated it all. Rob was the master of ceremonies, up front during the program. He may have looked in charge, but my siblings and I all know who really is in charge. I may be the bossiest, but Marie is the oldest and we still answer to her.

Mom and Dad came in and started greeting the guests. Over one hundred people attended, many unexpected. The most unexpected were a pair of clowns. Two ladies, who work in the kitchen of the retirement community, dress as clowns for a side job. They came trooping in with a song. My brother Rob who was up front giving a welcome speech did not miss a beat.

“Send in the clowns,” he declared.

Send in the Clowns

Send in the Clowns

Apr 03 2012

I’ll Just Watch Your Face

Posted by Mugs @ 9:06 pm in Family Print This Post Print This Post

My siblings and I threw a party for our Mom’s 70th birthday. We hosted an open house in a party room at the retirement village where my parents live. During the open house, my brother Rob planned an hour long program honoring Mom. For work, Rob orchestrates business conferences, and he put the same level of planning and execution into the program for Mom. It was not a simple party with cake and a few friends, it was the big show.

The party was not a surprise, because Mom loves to know everything. She loves to anticipate and look forward to a big event. Mom is someone who opens gifts as soon as they arrive and questions everyone to discover something new. We managed to keep a few things secret from Mom, but just barely. The biggest surprise for Mom was the arrival of two of her sisters, one from Florida and one from New York. They came in with a song. As they walked down the hall to my parents room, they sang a song to a tune from Mom’s old Air Force days. Mom heard them on the other side of the door and said in disbelief,  “That sounds like my sisters.” She opened the door and there they were. Mom cried and cried.

Aunt Kim, Mom, and Aunt Robin

Aunt Kim, Mom, and Aunt Robin

This surprise was almost foiled by Mom going to Marie’s house and reading her calendar. Marie had written down all our flight information. Thankfully, my Aunts never sent their information to Marie or Mom would have certainly read it.

For the birthday program, Rob requested words and memories from Mom’s friends and relatives. These were posted online on a site Mom had access to. Marie called and told Mom to quit checking the site three days before the party to keep the well wishes a surprise. Later that day, Mom called Marie.

“It’s not my fault!” Mom proclaimed.

“What ‘s not your fault, Mother?” Marie asked.

“The comments came right to my email from the site. It’s not my fault! I deleted it right away.” Mom protested.

“Delete them without reading them,” Marie recommended.

Mom didn’t like that idea. She kept looking for ways to find out what was going on.

Dale and the kids could not attend the party, so Rob wanted them to give a live birthday greeting. Knowing Dale would not want to appear live in front of the crowd, I asked him to post a birthday greeting for grandma with the kids and their instruments on the blog. Then, I texted Mom.

“Do not look at the blog before the party,” I wrote.

“I won’t,” she replied.

She didn’t look, but she asked her sister Kim to look for her.

“Margaret told me I can’t read the blog, but you can read the blog and I’ll just watch your face,” she told Kim.

“Don’t do it, Kim,” Dad yelled from the other room.

My Aunt refused. Later in their hotel room, my Aunts listened to the Happy Birthday Grandma greeting.

“They are not very musical,” one said.

“I don’t get it,” said the other.

When I first watched the greeting at my sister’s house, I laughed and laughed and laughed. Dale had found sheet music for a funeral march and with the kids musical accompaniment, they played Grandma her very own dirge. I knew Mom and Dad would know it was a joke and anyone who knew Dale would know it as well. I hoped that all others would take their cue from Mom and Dad. When the Happy Birthday Grandma video played at the party, Mom and Dad laughed so hard, they were shaking. Others laughed along, but some watched with confused looks on their faces and thought, “Is this supposed to be a joke?”

One of Marie’s friends who attended the party asked her the next day, “That video was supposed to be a joke right?” Marie assured him it was.

Next time to make sure, he’ll just have to watch Mom’s face.

 

Mar 24 2012

Happy 70th Birthday, Grandma!

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Mar 21 2012

Josiah and Jefferson

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Last weekend, we conducted college visit #5, the big show. For native Virginians, The University of Virginia is held in high regard. It was established by Thomas Jefferson in 1819 and part of the campus is a UNESCO world heritage site. Everyone speaks of UVA’s prestige. Even my hairdresser, although she terms it a bit differently. “UVA – snob school,” she informed me.

I had been to Charlottesville before, when my Dad was at the UVA medical center, but this was my first walk about the campus (UVA refers to the campus as “the grounds”). The grounds are filled with old Virginia red brick and white column buildings, giant magnolia trees, and a large lawn where (rumor has it) long ago the students used to ride horses and fire off pistols.

The feeling of being in a historic location is evident and the realization that buildings and dorms are really old is all around. The building where our information session took place had fire hose connections on the walls. There were marble and stone floors and large murals on the walls leading to one of the libraries. The libraries give students access to 5 million books. UVA is a storage site for the Library of Congress and has the reserve copy of the Declaration of Independence. I was going to post pictures of the library wall murals until I realized, as with paintings from the Greeks and Italians, most people in the murals lacked clothing.

Although the murals were a tad scandalous, UVA students are only allowed to behave in a scandalous manner if they are members of the secret society of imps. Imps dress up in devil costumes and cause trouble. While watching the Tour de France on television, I have occasionally seen a guy dressed in a devil costume running next to a bike rider. I now wonder if he was a student from UVA. I can’t quite fathom how the parent of an imp would explain their child’s collegiate experience. “I’m so proud of my son. He attends the prestigious University of Virginia dressed in a devil costume.”

UVA has many fraternities, sororities, and secret societies which our tour guide attempted to explain by telling us the following, “Here are the symbols of three secret societies. I don’t know who is in them. You can only find out when the member graduates or dies. They occasionally donate money. I don’t know what else they do. Any questions?”

“Why are there still secret societies in the year 2012?” I thought. For some reason, “I’m in, you’re out” still draws a crowd. UVA students, whether in or out, are all required to operate with morals. The students must sign a pledge to adhere to the honor system. They commit to not lie, cheat or steal.

Getting accepted into UVA is quite difficult: 23,000 students apply; 7,000 students are offered admission; 3,200 students are accepted. Over 70% of students admitted are in the top 10% of their high school class and the mid range of those students’ test scores are SAT 1900 – 2200 and ACT 29 -33. Students are encouraged to submit 2 letters of recommendation and discouraged from submitting 32 letters of recommendation. (An applicant did this.) Students are further encouraged to attend a school with a set numeric grading system and to avoid attending a school with a sun – star – moon grading profile. (I did not make that up.)

The prospective student must also submit an essay of 500 words or less on their future hopes or on a topic meaningful to them. The topics can be as broad as “giving back to your community” and “the best pen to buy.” I figure the first essay was written by someone going into a major containing the word “policy” in it and the second essay was written by a guy applying to the business school. The majority of our tour guides had majors with “policy” in the title. Nothing so simple as biology, math, or English was mentioned.

For those privileged few who gain acceptance, their work has just begun. They now enter their “personal road to discovery.” The competition does not stop when you enter UVA, it accelerates. Students compete for being accepted into a certain major, for the opportunity to study abroad, for summer internships, and for the privilege of spending a semester at sea traveling the world with a group of fellow students and professors.

One of the students who briefed us had spent a summer internship in South America researching greenhouses in which to grow sustainable food for impoverished areas. Then, she spent a semester studying reefs and volcanoes in New Zealand through the study abroad program. She was currently living in the heritage site dorms. She talked fondly of her African drumming class. She listed accomplishment after accomplishment, opportunity after opportunity. She was, of course, majoring in something with “Policy” in the title. Most definitely, she was driven.

UVA is certainly the school for students with a tremendous drive to succeed. The opportunities and experiences are unparalleled. This was the first college visit where I heard prospective students ask if they could double major. Unfortunately for them, double majoring was discouraged by the current students. They emphasized how difficult it was to complete a double major within 4 years. All students are required to graduate UVA in 4 years, no extensions. “Student self governance” was the phrase of the day. I suppose it has more of a positive ring to it than, “Pick yourself up by your bootstraps!”

One negative thing about UVA is the housing. The dorms are old and crummy with shower rooms and toilets at the end of halls. We were told we could not go inside the dorms for safety reasons, but I suspect the more likely reason was because most parents would not want their children living in buildings resembling old barracks. (This did not concern Dale and I. We both thought, “Lived in worse.”) There was only one thing modern about the dorms. Students can choose their roommate via facebook.

New high tech dorms are being built at UVA. When they are complete, the dryer will text the student when his clothes are dry.

Dale, Josiah, and I have more college visits to make before our search is complete. Next on the list is a college even older than UVA: William and Mary. It is so old, Thomas Jefferson attended it as a student.

Yes, it’s true. Wherever we go in Virginia, Thomas Jefferson is somewhere nearby.

 

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