Oct 26 2011
Here, There, and Back Again
The entire first quarter of this school year, I have been attempting to be in two places at once. Often, I lose track of my children’s daily activities and where I’m supposed to be when or when I’m supposed to be where. Field Hockey games, Cross Country meets, music lessons, worship practice, church events, birthday parties, friend get-togethers, and class activities are all lost in a blur of driving here, there, and back again.
My inherent laziness (I’d rather be reading a book or watching a Bears game) fights against adding anything to all this busyness. Zeke bears the brunt of “No. Not one more thing.”
Zeke: “Can I play soccer?”
Me: “No.”
Zeke: “Can I play baseball?”
Me: “No.”
Zeke: “All my friends play soccer and baseball.”
Me: “All your friends are first children. First children play soccer and baseball on a team. Fourth children play soccer and baseball on the Wii.”
Zeke: “When can I join a team?”
Me: “When your brother and sister go away to college. You’re the fourth child. I don’t have anymore brain power left to keep track of you.”
The other mothers of Zeke’s classmates feel sorry for him, and they offer to take him to soccer or baseball practice with them if I would just drop him off at their house. I have not given in, but Zeke is unrelenting like the kid on Uncle Buck who asks 38 questions in a row and finishes with the great quote “I’m a kid – that’s my job.”
A few weeks back, Abby was inducted into the National Honor Society (Yeah Abby!). Unfortunately, the lovely ceremony was scheduled for 6:30pm on the same night as Abby’s 4:30pm Field Hockey game across town.The level of organizational planning I needed on that day far exceeded my ability. (I know there are mothers who do this and do this well – I’m related to several of them – but I am not one of them). My first error was in thinking that if I started to get organized at 1pm, I would be ready in time.
First I searched for and ironed Zeke and Gabe’s blue pants, white shirts, and ties. I packed their black shoes and socks. (I was feeling good, thinking I would be done in plenty of time.) Unfortunately for me, a desperate text from Josiah arrived, “Call the school and tell Mrs. Clay I can’t play piano for the ceremony tonight. She says I have to play.”
Josiah was inducted into the National Honor Society last year (Yeah Josiah!), but he and I thought he was not required to attend this years induction because he had a Cross Country meet starting at 4pm nearly two hours away from the school. Immediately, my “Seriously son, why must you always do this to me?” agitation spiked and I thought, “Three places at once?” I called the school and discovered that yes, he had to play the piano, but they had helpfully arranged that another parent would whisk his son (who was being inducted) and Josiah off the race finish line and drive them quickly back to the school.
Now, I was scrambling. I had planned time to pack my dress/shoes/jewelry, the snacks/water bottles/lawn chairs/cowbells/balls for the Field Hockey game, but had not expected to search for and prepare Josiah’s pants/shirt/tie/jacket/socks/shoes and most importantly piano music. The two things that saved me from failure were my organized daughter who already had her bag of toiletries with dress and shoes in the car and my husband who would be coming straight from work already wearing a suit.
I picked up Gabe and Zeke from school at 3:15pm, watched the Field Hockey game at 4:30pm, drove to the high school for us all to get changed and meet Dale, watched Abby’s induction starting at 6:30pm, observed Josiah’s arrival (after he showered off the mud) at 7pm, ate out for a family celebratory dinner at 8pm… Zeke was put to bed at 11pm that evening.
Dale informed us all that he was inducted into the National Honor Society covered in mud and smelling like dead fish having arrived straight from an Orienteering meet that took place on the same day. Thankfully, Abby and Josiah showered and let go of the Manry tradition of being covered in mud and smelling like dead fish during the NHS induction ceremony.
I had been pushing my luck for weeks and amidst all the scrambling from here to there and back again, I knew brain exhaustion would inevitably set in and something would be forgotten.
Often my brain tries to give me hints that I am forgetting something, but I am too tired to think it through. At the end of the women’s retreat, I could not think straight. As I was packing the van, I looked at the side box and thought “I packed something in there that I didn’t want to break when I drove down.” Unfortunately, the thought went no further. After returning from the retreat, dropping everyone off at their homes, and stopping to pick up dinner, I unloaded the van. When the van was empty, Zeke ran upstairs from the basement and said, “Mom, you forgot the Wii.”
I had brought the Wii to the retreat and had slid it inside the t.v. cabinet at the cottage to protect it and left it there. It was now 6pm Sunday evening. The retreat location was 1 1/2 hours away outside of Williamsburg. I texted Robyn, “I forgot the Wii.” She texted back, “WHAT???!!!” Not wanting to go back the next morning after I dropped the kids at school, I knew I had to go immediately back and try to find someone to let us in. I called and left messages at the place. Robyn call stalked the place, making 100 calls to them in 30 minutes. I prayed they would eventually answer the phone and I started driving. I picked up Robyn (who was concerned that maybe it wasn’t a good idea for me to be on the road) on the way. Thankfully, the place called back and the woman committed to meet us when we arrived.
We met up with the woman from the retreat center and she explained that the phones weren’t working properly. Robyn apologized for her call stalking, and we put the Wii in the car. By this time, I was completely wiped out and Robyn offered to drive home. We both swear we took the entrance ramp for I64 west, but 40 minutes later Robyn said “this doesn’t look right.” I awoke from my stupor to realize we were in Hampton on the outskirts of Norfolk. There are a few plausible explanations for this situation: God blinded our eyes from going the correct way for reasons known only to Him, our subconscious minds took over in an act of rebellion because we really wanted to go to the beach for the retreat, or we were both completely exhausted.
I called Dale and let him know that we needed to stop for gas and we both thought Hampton would be the best place to stop.
After nearly 3 hours of driving a distance that should have taken 1 1/2 hours, I dropped Robyn at her place and thought “just 30 more minutes and I’ll be home.” Ten minutes later, I got stuck on I95 in construction traffic. It took me 30 minutes to drive 3 miles. I arrived home at 11pm, having spent 7 1/2 hours in my car going here, there, and back again, and collapsed on my bed in exhaustion.
Only one thought gave me peace: “Zeke has the Wii back just in time for baseball practice.”